Your Careeer Style

Your Style

Individuals with these characteristics are project minded, task focused and very orderly in their approach to work. They are also characterised by carefulness and caution, which adds to the individual’s stubbornness and perfectionist approach. Not only are they focused on details, but they also bring a need to think ahead and consider pitfalls, which can turn their perfectionism into fussiness or pedantic behaviour. Clarity, direction and clear expectations are all very important to them. They need to know what they are required to achieve and work best in an area where there are systems, processes and procedures to follow.

They like to have boundaries to operate within and to feel comfortable that they will not tread on toes or encroach on someone else’s work area. Certainly, stress will occur if they cannot deal with their work in a logical and orderly sequence, particularly if, as a result, error occurs. In such situations, the stress will manifest in irritability and the negative aspects of their temperament bring a more critical approach and they will be outspokenly pessimistic. What is also seen when they become stressed, is some oscillation between quiet, focused behaviour and outspoken, direct and even blunt behaviour. Anxiety will also occur if they are put on the spot in terms of having to react very quickly to changing demands. They like plenty of warning and background information.

Their work approach is extremely conscientious. They can be relied upon to produce the work that has been asked of them on time and to a high standard. They will try and keep on top of their work flow, will be very organised and methodical and will have a place for everything. You will not see a slapdash approach resulting from this sort of individual and they will not take too kindly to anybody else who is. As a general rule, their preference is to take one step at a time, deal with one task, complete it and then begin another. Having to juggle multiple demands is likely to create confusion, which can result in a flustered or anxious approach to their work and an increasing need to organise and keep everything in its place.

With people, they will tend to be more matter of fact, businesslike, direct and formal than demonstrative or bubbly. They are certainly more reserved than outgoing or sociable and having to be in the limelight or constantly talking to people during the day will make them feel like they are being distracted from their tasks rather than productive. At the same time, whilst their general demeanour will be of someone who is sensible and “no nonsense”, they do have an underlying warmth and consideration for people, which can emerge from time to time. It is more likely to be fleeting in a work situation but may be more evident outside of this or with people they know particularly well. They respond well to people who are professional, conscientious and very thorough.

Kai’s Adventures

This can only be a brief update as I barely have time to breathe let alone blog.

Kai had a 90 minute tonic clonic (Grand mal) seizure on the 24th November following a few weeks/months of breathe holding spells/seizures. It’s a long story involving paramedics, MICA unit, enough Midazolam & Pentenol to wipe him out, intubation, MRI, Lumber Puncture, Cat Scan, EEG, 24 hours in Paediatric ICU and a very terrifying time for us.

Thankfully Damian’s amazing family took it in turns to look after the kids!

His EEG was mildly disordered which doesn’t necessarily mean anything (you can have abnormal results from a *normal* patient and normal results from a Epileptic) but because of that and the severity of the seizure they put him on Epilim. So far it doesn’t seem to have made a difference which doesn’t really mean anything either as it could mean they are not seizures or maybe it just isn’t the right medication, or maybe no medication would stop them.

We are not sure ho much of his behaviour is due to the “episodes” or the Epilim as the side effects from that which also fit his current behaviour include irritability, insomnia, shaky movements and unsteady walk (ataxia), Drowsiness, Confusion, Anaemia etc. Unfortunately the side effect of increased appetite has not kicked in, he will eat maybe 2 mouthfuls at a time, after which he will just hold the food in his mouth until I scoop it out.

So he is almost exclusively breast-fed still (tired bottles/formula months before this started to no avail). I am happy for him to continue as long as he needs too, especially since he is on a med as strong as Epilim, admittedly add that to his insomnia and I am a walking zombie/bundle of pain/bitch queen but right now there seems to be no other way so the kids are pitching in and helping and Damian is being very tolerant *grin*

…a lot of things you think are important, are just urgent, but not important. Focus on what really matters.

A phone call for example is always urgent – it rings only a few times and is gone, but is often not important. If you are in the middle of something truly important – playing with kids, being present with your loved one, – do not stop just because a silly phone rings. Stay present with what’s important now.

…your deepest connection to God is through your beloved.

You are most open to God when your heart is wide open, and your mind is settled and worry-free. For most of us, this happens in the presence of our beloved.